Wednesday, June 02, 2010
Life, living, breaks our hearts. For many and varied reasons. Some may seem trivial, some are obviously large and important griefs. I say seem trivial as I believe no sadness is trivial. Any sadness can teach us what sorrow is for others. Can bring us compassion and empathy. Sadness is sadness, grief is grief. No matter what the instigator.
In Shambhala training, a secular training initiated by Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche from his Buddhist perspective, we learned about the broken-hearted warrior. The picture that comes to my mind around this warrior is someone who goes forth into life with courage, at the same time as they are filled with sadness and sorrow and maybe just want to curl up and let the world go by without them.
Susan Piver recently published a book from the Shambhala perspective called The Wisdom of A Broken Heart. Click here for a video in which she talks in a personal way about her heart broken in a romantic affair.
On her website, Donna Woodka quotes from John Welwood. "To live with a broken-open heart is to experience life full strength...When the heart breaks open it marks the beginning of a new love affair with the world." For the full quote click here.
And Gene Pitney, with his amazingly melancholy voice, sings a song from my teenaged years. Only love can break a heart, only love can mend it.