(section of oil painting begun in 2008 and still unfinished. Out of camera batteries so resorting to old photos)My herbal practitioner wrote the following on the back of her bill when she mailed my herbal tinctures:
In Native American tradition people bring dilemmas such as yours to council. The 1st time everyone listens, offers support, ideas etc. The 2nd time everyone listens, offers support.... The third time a person brings the same dilemma to council everyone gets up and leaves because it is obvious the the person isnt doing their part so why should they.
I agree and disagree at the same time. I feel like I am putting a lot of work and energy and thought and cleverness into solving my dilemma. At the same time, I seem to have a stubborn refusal to do the thing unto completion. I would agree with this part: I have overworked the talking about it. I also feel you guys should be getting up and leaving and that I have overworked your good natures. May light and love be yours today and forever more.
16 comments:
Personally I like thinking about other people's dilemmas for a while, so I can stop thinking about my own!
Suki, "as long as we aspire to something, we will also make mistakes" it was Goethe who said that, so never mind, we all are like you in one way or another. I love the way you write about your life! Take care, Andrea
okay, getting up and leaving now....lol.
i am so glad you have us to 'talk' to, hope it helps.
We all have our own issues but while we are listening to yours we can be away from ours.....
No one is leaving, but soon you will get a good kick in the pants(just kidding). This is not hard Suki, find a house, fall in love, buy it. It will happen. One step at a time. As I have said before I would love to have this "problem" you have of buying a house!
And we love you and will be here through the whole process.xoxo
I love your painting, Suki. It's soft and vibrant at the same time.
I think you haven't felt right about your house dilemma because the right one hasn't come along yet. Just sit tight. We're not getting up and leaving any time soon.
The Native Americans are wise people. I think it is like a parent who has to finally let the child find its own way even if it means making some mistakes along the way. It's how they learn to be independent.
But I like the counsil being here for me when I need to vent...so I am willing to stay the time needed with you as well.
Lynn said it best for me too.
I think one problem is .. Your wish list doesnt match your cash flow. So something has to give.
Eleanor Roosevelt said, "You must do the thing you think you cannot do." Good advice, and someone once sent me an angel ornament with that very quote inscribed on it. I try to keep that in my mind when decisions are tough.
We wouldn't be here if we didn't want to listen to you & support you Suki.
It IS up to you though.
Cape Cod, here we come! :)
Suki, I have a few friends I'd like to send that Native American quote to because it really applies to them. But I think you ARE doing the work, big time.
I think when the right situation falls into your lap you'll know it and jump on it.
Notice I didn't say 'perfect' situation :)
I'm hanging in with the others. I think our journies are richer with friends by our side. ♥
When I lived alone, I found it difficult to find and buy a home. There were so many fears I had to face...can I deal with the upkeep, will it take all my money to do so, is it too small or too big, will I have enough money left over to have fun as well as own a house...those are just a few of the questions that ran through my mind. It was a hurdle, for sure.
But somewhere along the line, I had to stand and face my fears, since I had a lease to sign if I did not make a move to ...somewhere.
I found a house and bought it almost immediately when my back was against the wall like that. I bought it with all its warts, at that point either living with what I didn't like or changing what I could.
You'll find a house, Suki, and you'll get over your personal hurdle. In the meantime, what are friends for if not to listen to each other?
thanks Lolo.
Marion, all those questions to yourself you listed are mine too! It might be better really if I had a deadline although I have had some self-imposed deadlines but they dont seem to exert enough pressure or whatever.
I am missing something here - what, dear Suki - is your dilemma? Email me in case I forget to check back your blog for an answer (very forgetful these days am I!) P.S. you'll find my email on my blogger profile. Afraid I don't visit as often as I should.
Suki, we all have fears and it is our friends who help us see they are really just what our heads do to us and are not usually anything real. Sometimes the fear is in making the wrong choice, but what does that mean, really? Wouldn't it be better if we said we made a "different" choice! In a way, it is like "the road less traveled", don't you think?
I don't know about you, but I am grateful my friends have not gotten up and walked away from time to time. I am sure glad I have made the decision to stick with some of them when they have struggled...I have learned from it, too. So while I admire and even study a lot of Native American lore (it is a part of my heritage), I also know that some of the thought processes were specific to time and place!
Hang in there...and we will be here when you need us!
I agree that you ARE doing something. You're doing a lot.
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