Thursday, March 27, 2008
It is a new thing for me to be dealing with doctors, medications and physical illness close up (via my Mom). I am amazed at the way the patient's body and balance are manipulated through the medications that the doctors add in and take out with abandon. One minute medication A is okay. The next medication B is the one. Mom's primary physician did not list her tamoxifin (post breast cancer and prescribed by the surgeon that she is supposed to take for life) on his meds list so every time she's in the hospital she doesn't get it.
Doctors talk in percentages and measurements. They do tests. Even vets do nowadays. They take ex-rays, cat scans and poor mom endures a blood draw almost every day. Her veins are very difficult to get into, yet she never complains.
Why the heck do they need all this blood? Rhetorical question. Being a doctor's daughter and coming from a scientific family background, I know the logical, left-brained answer to this. They take the blood to navigate manipulating the medications. But I'm sorry, I find it absurd. I can't see myself enduring it being done on my body without protest.
Mom moves from one physical trauma to another, yet through it all she keeps a good spirit and will to heal. She believes in the healing powers of doctors and medicine so these are things she chooses and wants. I know medicine helps a lot of people.
I guess for my personal self, I have been blessed to have no chronic illness and/or acute illnesses although as a child I once died of a hemmorhage. So I have rarely dealt with doctors. And when I do I often do not follow their advice. Why am I on no meds at the age of 62? One reason is that fact-- I rarely go to doctors. I am sure if I did they'd find something about me that needed medication. But then again if my doctor looked like this dude above.........:)
I do care for my health by going to a homeopathic nurse practitioner, an herbalist, getting massages, eating relatively well and moderately (I've weighed 110 lbs for years), practicing yoga daily and almost daily walks. I also make my own herbal tinctures and teas from medicinal herbs I grow or wildcraft (only for myself, of course.) So maybe I have this attitude about my own health care because I have no illnesses, knock on wood.
I am happy for Mom to make her own health choices and would never impose my ideas on her or anyone else. We must each choose our own paths health-wise and otherwise. I think I'm just finding it difficult to be somewhat "responsible" for Mom's wellbeing and healthcare and unsure sometimes what the best direction to go in is. Of course, my brother is involved too and he is the health care proxy so his view carries more weight than mine but so far we have agreed it's up to mom to determine what is best in most circumstances. Although we have to step in in acute illness times as the ill person is not necessarily thinking clearly or seeing the bigger picture.